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Vaginismus is the involuntary tightening of the muscle that surrounds the opening of the vagina causing sexual intercourse to be painful or impossible. Vaginismus is probably the most common cause of female sexual pain you’ve never heard of. The hallmark symptom of vaginismus is a severe burning pain with intercourse and in its worst form sexual penetration is totally impossible. Vaginismus falls into two categories – primary and secondary. Women with primary vaginismus have never been able to achieve sexual penetration and most often they also find it difficult to use tampons or complete a gynecological exam. Secondary vaginismus occurs when a woman has previously been able to have pain-free intercourse but now she experiences unexplained continual or intermittent sexual pain. Whether a woman has primary or secondary vaginismus, she appears to be physically ‘normal’ so when she sees a doctor about her problem she may be told there is nothing wrong and the problem is all in her head. But this statement is not true! Vaginismus has very real physical aspects, very real emotional aspects and it can also deeply affect a woman spiritually. Because women with vaginismus appear to have nothing physically wrong with them, they often remain undiagnosed and untreated, living frustrated lives without a name for their pain. Hundreds of thousands if not millions of women around the world suffer from the shame and secrecy of vaginismus never knowing they can be healed. But there is hope! Vaginismus is highly treatable. For two years I served as a forum moderator and ‘vaginismus coach’ helping women through a treatment program called Completely Overcome Vaginismus, offered through the website www.vaginismus.com. This treatment program is highly effective and many, many women have been completely healed of this condition. God cares about the most intimate details of our lives and the hope offered through this program is proof of His Healing Hand. Please see www.vaginismus.com for more information. (Some information on this page used with permission of Vaginismus.com)
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Self-treatment is very beneficial for a condition like vaginismus for several reasons:
I myself used the Completely Overcome Vaginismus program to conquer my 14 year battle with this condition and I personally recommend the self-treatment option. However, with self-treatment comes certain pitfalls which can slow, curtail and even stop a woman’s progress toward full healing. Self-doubt, procrastination, avoidance and a lack of encouragement, support and accountability can all cause a woman to fall through the cracks and discontinue effective treatment. Vaginismus treatment is highly successful but it only works if a woman perseveres and sees treatment through to the end. This commitment to perseverance can seem a lot less lonely when someone knowledgeable about the condition walks beside you. As a coach, I will help keep hope alive until a woman completes her goal of fully overcoming vaginismus. The brand of Consultative Coaching I offer comes from a woman who has ‘been there’. I’ve lived through the emotional, physical and spiritual pain specific to women with vaginismus and I have also realized the amazing joy of hope fulfilled when I finally overcame this condition. It is my belief that with the proper treatment and support every woman with vaginismus can fully overcome and live a life free of sexual pain. My vaginismus coaching technique combines compassion, empathy and understanding with strong accountability and action steps to help a woman move forward into the intimate future she has always envisioned. Coaching can help to encourage and motivate but even more than that, coaching helps a woman to seek and find the courage she never knew she had. Once she finds it within her, she begins to own this courage allowing her to overcome not only vaginismus but possibly many other fears as well. It is my prayer that any woman coached through vaginismus will understand the true meaning of becoming “more than an overcomer”. Consultative Coaching for women with vaginismus is not ‘pure coaching’ but it is definitely not counseling or therapy either. I have a strong knowledge of the condition of vaginismus from a physical, emotional and spiritual standpoint and will help a woman step by step through treatment by phone and email correspondence from any where in the world. This type of one-on-one phone coaching for women going through vaginismus treatment is unprecedented and unique to Freedom Steps Life Coaching. I ask for a 3 month coaching commitment which most often is enough time to see a woman through treatment and into transition to intercourse. Depending on the woman, some treatment may take longer. Some women may decide to continue the Coaching partnership longer than the three months to move forward in other areas of life. My main goal will always be for a woman to eventually find the answers within her own heart to experience a permanent life change. Vaginismus coaching should never be used to replace psychotherapy, counseling, physical therapy or medical treatments. Coaching assumes a woman is highly functional and emotionally and mentally competent. Vaginismus Consultative Coaching assumes a woman is also physically capable in every aspect to overcome vaginismus using the dilation method of self-treatment. If I feel a woman would be better served by talking with a therapist or counselor or by seeking help from a medical doctor, I will not hesitate to advise them to pursue such options. It is highly possible to live a life free from sexual pain. I’m here to help. I believe in you, Kathy
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